Monday, September 12, 2011

Review: Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese

CUTTING FOR STONE
By Abraham Verghese
Published February 3, 2009

Marion and Shiva Stone are twin brothers born of a secret union between a beautiful Indian nun and a brash British surgeon at a mission hospital in Addis Ababa. Orphaned by their mother’s death in childbirth and their father’s disappearance, bound together by a preternatural connection and a shared fascination with medicine, the twins come of age as Ethiopia hovers on the brink of revolution. Yet it will be love, not politics—their passion for the same woman—that will tear them apart and force Marion, fresh out of medical school, to flee his homeland. He makes his way to America, finding refuge in his work as an intern at an underfunded, overcrowded New York City hospital. When the past catches up to him—nearly destroying him—Marion must entrust his life to the two men he thought he trusted least in the world: the surgeon father who abandoned him and the brother who betrayed him.


I added this book to my to-read list shortly after it was republished in paperback in 2010.  This is a novel that should be on your to-read list as well.  But, maybe at a quiet/less busy time.  This book is nearly 700 pages and is not what I would call a "quick read".  Our book club chose it for our August book and then had to move it into September as well after only one of our members was able to finish it in that month.  I am hoping that others were able to finish it, because they are lots of great discussable topics!

With so many pages, you know this isn't going to be a fast-moving story.  The writer takes his time by sharing history, detail, and gives great emphasis to the relationships in the story.  At times, you are thinking, just get on with it.  But most of the time, the detail is so beautiful and gives you a full picture of the moment he is sharing. 

There were so many pages that I dog-earred due to wonderful quotes in the book.  Here are some of my favorites and give you an example of the style Verghese used in his story-telling.

"Hema was told when she first came to Ethiopia that this strange haircut was so that if God chose to take that child (and He took so many), the tuft gave Him a handle by which to lift it to heaven."
Page 91
"Wasn't that the definition of home? Not where you are from, but where you are wanted?"  Page 95

After the twins were born, Hema, the doctor dismisses the probationers request for circumcision by saying, "What have you been doing all the time, eh? You should have been worring about their swallowing ends, not their watering cans."  Page128

After the twins were born... "Hema felt light-headed, giddy. I won the lottery without buying a ticket, she thought.  These two babies plugged a hole in my heart that I didn't know had until now."
 Page 130

After a disagreement over which Biblical doctrine was better, the Matron of the hospital in Ethiopia states, "God will judge us, Mr Harris, by what we did to relieve the suffering of our fellow human beings.  I don't think God cares which doctrine we embrace."   And then goes on to say, "We need medicine and food. But we get Bibles. I always wondered if the good people who send us Bibles really think that hookworm and hunger are healed by scripture? Our patients are illiterate."  Page 188
 
"'Call me old-fashioned,' Deepak said, 'but I've always believed hard work pays off. My version of the Beatitudes.  Do the right thing, put up with unfairness, selfishness, stay true to yourself....one day it all works out. Of course, I don't know that people who wronged you suffer or get their just desserts.  I don't think it works that way. But I do think one day you get your reward.'"  Page 508
 
There were many other parts of the book that made an impression on me.  I was fascinated and learned so much about Third World medicine.  I was amazed at what the doctors could accomplish with so little.  Death has such a different tone in Ethiopia rather than in America and within America between rich and poor hospitals and one I had never thought about before reading this book. 
 
There are so many discussable topics that this would be a great book club choice.  I am looking forward to our discussion next week.  I am sure we will hit on topics such as religion, forgiveness, grief, love, betrayal, and immigration. 
 
I give this 4 out of 5 stars and is a book that could be placed on a level with other classic literature.  It should be read and talked about. 

Fall Means Football....and Soccer

The boys started their soccer season this past weekend with a win, 5-0.  They are playing on a co-ed 6-8th grade team. Even though Bennett is only a 5th grader, he is playing on the team as well.  They did an awesome job and it was fun to watch them.  I was amazed at their ball handling skills and how they looked ahead for opportunities to pass and get the ball in to the right person.
Patrick, in yellow, going after it

Bennett, in yellow, in the center


Then, after soccer we switched gears to football, watching and cheering for the Iowa Hawkeyes even though they lost to our biggest rival in 3 overtimes - The Iowa State Cyclones.  I hope it isn't a precedent for our season.  I also will be logging on to my computer every Saturday to watch the Bemidji State Beavers of Minnesota play football.  My nephew, Eric, is their offensive coordinator.  Even though their game this weekend went into overtime as well, the Beavers came away with a BIG WIN!  It was a nail biter and kept me on the edge of my seat.  I am grateful their division has the ability for us to watch them play live online! Then Sunday is spent watching and cheering for all the exciting NFL games.  We make a spreadsheet each week and make our picks for which team is going to win the game.  Some teams are picked because they are favorites (Vikings rule in our house) and others are picked because they have some of our good ol' Hawkeye players on their teams.  It is fun to see who picks the upset of the day and who is winning in the picks each week.

So, even though there are lots of other things our family could be doing, football does have a hold over our weekends....for a few hours anyway, and I'm not complaining. 

Who do you cheer for?

What I Learned from Ecclesiastes and Song of Songs - Reading the Bible in 90 Days

As you know I have started reading the Bible. I have 90 days to complete it and I am reading it with hundreds (1200+ to be exact) of other women. Each week (and even day to day) we check-in with each other on our progress, to pray for each other, and to share our thoughts. How cool is that?

So, I thought I would take each Book of the Bible and share my thoughts, verses, or people that stood out or spoke to me on that particular day. I have been doing most of my reading in the mornings reading whenever I can! The key is to get it done. If you get behind, you keep at it....catching up in chunks each day. The readings have been manageable and I am still praying it stays that way for me. I am currently several days behind schedule, but, gradually, I am catching up.

If any of this has peaked your interest in Reading the Bible in 90 Days, check out Moms Toolbox. I am sure there will be another session this winter. And, if I can do it.....YOU CAN TOO!

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 A Time for Everything

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 5:5 It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it.  It is better not to promise than to promise and break it.

Ecclesiastes 5:10 Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income.   If our worth is always based on money and things of this world, we will never have enough.  Base your worth on love, family, friends, and faith and you will never be happier. 

Ecclesiastes 5:19-20 Moreover, when God gives any man wealth and possessions, enables him to enjoy them, to accept his lot and be happy in his work - this is a gift of God. He seldom reflects on the days of his life, because God keeps him occupied with gladness of heart. 

Ecclesiastes 8:15 So I commend the enjoyment of life, because nothing is better for a man under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany him in his work all the days of the life God has given him under the sun. 

Ecclesiastes 12:13-14 Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil.  God knows what is truly in our hearts.  Nothing is hidden to him.  All of us will be judged and God will not accept excuses. 

Song of Songs 6:3 I am my lover's and my lover is mine; he browses among the lilies.  Another favorite.  Song of Songs is like a romantic novel.  Read it if you haven't!

Now on to Isaiah.......................

Sunday, September 11, 2011

What I Learned from Proverbs Chapters 17-31 - Reading the Bible in 90 Days

As you know I have started reading the Bible. I have 90 days to complete it and I am reading it with hundreds (1200+ to be exact) of other women. Each week (and even day to day) we check-in with each other on our progress, to pray for each other, and to share our thoughts. How cool is that?


So, I thought I would take each Book of the Bible and share my thoughts, verses, or people that stood out or spoke to me on that particular day. I have been doing most of my reading in the mornings reading whenever I can! The key is to get it done. If you get behind, you keep at it....catching up in chunks each day. The readings have been manageable and I am still praying it stays that way for me. I am currently several days behind schedule, but, gradually, I am catching up.

If any of this has peaked your interest in Reading the Bible in 90 Days, check out Moms Toolbox. I am sure there will be another session this winter. And, if I can do it.....YOU CAN TOO!

Proverbs is so FULL of verses that are humbling and convicting. You read through it and then start saying prayers of forgivenes and asking God for guidance in those areas. Proverbs has no room for pride or judgment of others. First look at yourself and start changing your ways and those around you will see a difference. I could have written out nearly every verse. But these were the ones that pertained to my life, or were convicting for me. You may have others that mean something to you.

Proverbs 17:6 Children's children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.

Proverbs 17:14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out. 

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times.

Proverbs 18:10 The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.
Do you run to the Lord when you need protection or need to feel loved?

Proverbs 21:13 If a man shuts his ears to the cry of the poor, he to will cry out and not be answered.  What are you doing to help the poor in needy in your community?  Watch for bargains at your local store and stock up on them.  Drop them off at your local homeless shelter or food pantry.  There is so much need in our communities today and time and time again, the Bible said we need to help them.

Proverbs 21:19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.  A reminder for myself when I am feeling ill-tempered.

Proverbs 21:21 He who pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honor.

Proverbs 21:30 There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the Lord.  No matter how much I try to plan, schedule, and lay out our lives.....God can intervene at anytime, any where....because it isn't my plan for our lives but HIS plan!  I need to read this verse every single day.

Proverbs 22:2 Rich and poor have this in common: The Lord is the Maker of them all.  The least, the last and the lost are THOSE people, they are God's people, just like I am and you are.  Next time you look down on someone, remember, God made them the same way he made you.

Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.  I can only hope I am training them up the way God would want me to. 

Proverbs 22:9 A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor.  Another example of our requirement for giving.

Proverbs 23:13 Do not withhold discipline from a child. God wants us and expects us to give them rules and structure.

Proverbs 24:3-4 By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.

Proverbs 25:21-22 If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you.

Proverbs 31:10-31 The Wife of Noble Character - I strive to be a Noble Wife, but do not succeed.  These lessons are ones that show how a woman who fears the Lord, respects her spouse, cares for others, and works hard for her family will find happiness in life and with God.

No on to Ecclesiastes and Song of Songs........





Rocking, Praying, and Watching



Today.......I am remembering......................................

I remember that morning as clear as day.  I was sitting in the rocking chair feeding our 6 week old and watching our 1 year old play.  My husband and brother-in-law were installing a patio door onto our house.  So, it was chaotic, but I was watching FOX News and heard them say a plane had hit the World Trade Center.  I remember telling the guys to come in and look and then watching the coverage.  Then watching, live, as the 2nd plane crashed.  I remember holding both of my boys close and wondering what was going on.  I remember being scared for several family members who worked in the Pentagon at the time as we learned about it being hit.  I remember rocking and praying and holding our 2 boys.  It was a very emotional day.  As new parents it was scary wondering how we could protect our children if something happened here.  I remember thinking of all the parents who were trapped on planes and in buildings and wouldn't come home to their children that night or ever.  Since then, my husband and I have traveled to NYC and visited Ground Zero twice and in the summer of 2010 we took our family to Shanksville, PA to visit that site.  It is something that will always be tied to our generation and our children's generation and I want them to know what happened and the heroes that were part of that day and the days after 9/11.

I saw a clip on Good Morning America Saturday morning that featured what was going on in the world on September 10, 2001.  The world before 9/11 and the world after 9/11 is a much different world.  All the families that spent Monday going about life as normal and then their world came crashing down the next day.  All that we took for granted before 9/11.  All the security measures in place since 9/11.  All the families that were forever changed after 9/11 and ache for 1 more moment, phone call, kiss, or hug from their loved one. All those people who survived the attack and wonder why they did and their friend didn't.  Those who missed a flight, didn't go to work that day, or who were in a meeting across town and are forever wondering, why were they saved?  All the firefighters, police and first responders who saw things no one should ever have to see and forever live with those images.  Today I am praying for them.  

My heart aches for anyone who life was forever changed by the terrorist acts committed on our country.  I have to believe our government is being vigilant and working hard to protect us from further harm, knowing that there is no 100% full-proof protection.  The best way to honor those who lost their lives on 9/11 is to not take one day with your family for granted, love the ones your with, and don't sweat the small stuff.  That's what I intend to do.

Friday, September 9, 2011

Things I Love - In the Kitchen: Kashi Mountain Medley

Things I Love...


This is my feature where I get to share something that I just love. Since you are my friends, I like sharing things I love with others. It could be anything from a new product, food, recipe, song, image, to a person and everything in between. This will be something I am completely doing on my own, without pressure or compensation from a company, author, PR/Marketing firm, friend, business owner, etc. This will just be something that makes me happy and I want to share it with you. Enjoy some love!

For the next few weeks I am going to focus my Things I Love on things I love in my kitchen. I love to cook and bake and there are a few things that I Could. Not. Live. Without.

Today's love is..............................Kashi Mountain Medley

This is one of my favorite things to have for breakfast.  It is tasty, healthy, and filling.  If I eat this for breakfast, I am full for several hours which is a huge bonus.  Since it is a granola, it also works as a snack.  I've only eaten it in a bowl with milk though.  Just a half a cup of granola gives you 7 grams of fiber.  So, if you are looking for a tasty way to add more fiber to your diet, this is a great way to do it!

The only place I can find the Kashi Mountain Medley around here is at Hy-Vee in their organic food section.  It is not with the other cereals in the mainstream food aisles.  I have never seen this product at Target or Wal-Mart here, even though they carry other Kashi products, but your particular ones could have it.  Even though it is a relatively small box when compared to other cereal boxes and a bit more expensive (around $4/box), it is worth it to me because of the benefits it offers me.

I highly recommend you check out the Kashi brand of organic food products.  They have cereal/granola bars, cookies, cereals, crackers, and other products.  If you go on their website, KASHI, and join their email club, you can often receive FREE samples of their products, which I have done frequently. 

What do you usually have for breakfast?

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Review and Giveaway: ZhuZhu Pets Fashion Review

GIVEAWAY HAS ENDED. THANKS FOR ENTERING!

Do you have a little girl in your house that is all about fashion???  Well, I do.  She loves to shop, pick out her outfits and accessorizee.  So, you can imagine her delight when I pulled out the ZhuZhu Pets Fashion toys.  She loves to play with her ZhuZhu pets and now she has another way to interact with them.  Mom Select and Cepia sent us the NEW ZhuZhu Pets Fashion Closet, new colorful ZhuZhu Pookie, and an outfit to play with. 
Since ZhuZhu Pets now come in fun colors, they need a whole new wardrobe to go along with it.  There is even a wedding dress so your kids can have a ZhuZhu-themed wedding.  Along with the Fashion Closet, there is a ZhuZhu Pets Fashion Runway with lights that really turn on. 
All the pieces came together very quickly.  The closet's conveyor belt even moves so choosing an outfit is easier and  more fun!

Reagan, who is 6 1/2 enjoys playing with her ZhuZhu Pets and all the neat new things that they have come out with.  ZhuZhu Pets are available at your nearest retailer such as Target, Wal-Mart, and Toys R Us.  For more about the ZhuZhu Pets, check out their website, ZHUNIVERSE.  There you can play games, learn about the new ZhuZhu Pets, or watch a trailer for the new ZhuZhu Pets movie coming out on DVD this month titled, QUEST FOR ZHU.  You can also follow @Zhuniverse on Twitter or like them on Facebook to keep up on all the latest happenings in the Zhuniverse. 

Now, for the BEST PART!!!  I have a ZhuZhu Pet from the new Fashion Review line along with an outfit to
giveaway to a reader.  If you would like to win leave a comment below with:

1 - MANDATORY ENTRY - Visit the ZHUNIVERSE site and tell me which of the new ZhuZhu Pets you think your child would like best.  Be sure to leave an email address (nameATemailDOTcom) so I can contact you if you win.

For Extra Entries:

2 - Follow Me on Twitter Here or state that you already do
3 - Like My New Facebook Page Here or state that you already do

All entries need to be posted by 11:59 PM on Sunday, September 18, 2011.  There is a maximum of three entries allowed per person.  The contest is open to US residents only.  I will choose a winner using Random.org on Monday, September 19, 2011.  I will contact the winner via email and the winner will have 48 hours to contact me or I will choose a new winner.  Prizes will be delivered to the winner via the company. 

Thanks to Cepia and Mom Select for sending me the ZhuZhu Pet package for review.  I was not compensated in any other way for this review.  This review is my honest opinion and I wouldn't review anything that wouldn't benefit me or my family.